I think it’s safe to say nobody wants to be seen as desperate in love and there is a good reason why. You see when you come off as desperate to people you place doubt your value and worth. For example, there are people who like to move fast in dating and relationships. Unfortunately, there are people out there who don’t feel comfortable with that and might even see it as a red flag. Moving fast can make people wonder “Why does this person want to be a serious item so fast when they barely know me?” These thoughts might lead a person to think you are hiding something and may pull something over them. I want to make it clear that this does not mean you have to close yourself out to people or hide your feelings in fear of seeming desperate. The point I hope to get across is that there are limits you should avoid crossing in order to be taken seriously.
Know your self-worth
It is important that we know our value as a person what we have to offer in a relationship in order to not settle for anyone who does not deserve our love. Unfortunately, a lot of people who don’t know don’t know what they have to offer end up settling for people who make them feel like sh*t. The people who know what they have to offer will quickly disregard people who don’t make them feel good about themselves. Why? Because they know that their love is valuable and they deserve someone who treats them well and makes them feel good. It’s more than just finding a pretty face. It’s about finding someone that makes you feel good in your own way. However, it’s important that we don’t fall into creating impossible standards.
Make friendships
Friendships are beneficial to all of us as humans, we are social creatures after all. This is why I strongly encourage you to spend time with friends. We crave connection. If you don’t have at least one person you can call a friend. I would encourage you to try to make friends. What happens a lot of times is when people don’t have friends and they get into a relationship they place too much pressure on their partners. This does not mean that your partner shouldn’t be your friend. The best partnerships have a friendship aspect to them. What I mean is that our partners aren’t perfect and there will be things that there are many hats that our partner will not be good at.
Find and do the things that bring you joy and excitement
I am a believer that in life it is imperative that you have passions aside from love. You want this because when you have other things that you look forward to. You avoid having people become the thing you look forward to. I can’t emphasize enough the difference it makes having something that brings you joy such as spending time doing Hobbies, Passions, or goals you want to achieve.
