You will be closer to finding love when you break the cycles and patterns you have in love. A lot of growth is required to reach the level of consciousness to understand what must be done on the journey to love. It takes time and many experiences and a lot of self-reflection. For example, a girl who wants a man who is ambitious and well-off might end up learning that someone like that isn’t exactly the partner she needs. She might realize that she needs someone who balances their life and doesn’t always spend their time working. This is a reminder that someone who looks like a good partner on paper doesn’t necessarily mean that they will be a good fit as a partner.
Reflect on the past to Shape Future Love
Today I’d like to encourage you to stop, relax, and reflect on your love life both from the past and present day. We love to talk about the things that will get us closer to love. However, something I realize that isn’t talked about as much are the hard parts such as past relationships or situationships. Some people try to avoid the hurt, others think it’s all in the past and there is no point in thinking about it. Some people try to avoid the hurt, others think it’s all in the past and there is no point in thinking about it. However, what if I told you not everything about your experience was necessarily bad? I want to encourage you to think of your experiences as data you have collected over time. Reflect back on every person you spent time getting to know and ask yourself the following questions; (1)What did I like about this person? (2) What did I not like about them? (3) Did I like how they made me feel? It’s important to take notes and be as self-aware as possible.
Throw away the list you have of qualities you want in a partner and instead look for someone who makes you feel good overall
Try the following activity. Think of three people in your life who make me feel amazing and describe how I feel when I’m with them. Write it down on a piece of paper if needed. Whatever you get from this activity is what you should be looking for.
We talk so much about the person we want but not about the person we need. For this reason, it is important to take time to think and reflect back on our Dating History and work on finding what is most likely to work out for us in the long run. Embrace the lessons learned from past experiences, both good and bad, as they shape your understanding of what you truly seek in a partner.
