We need to change the way we see rejection in dating. The feeling of rejection can be very hard especially when you have developed strong feelings for someone. Most of us see rejection as a sort of loss or failure of being good enough. For this reason, we end up blaming ourselves at times. This mindset ultimately makes us feel like we are not good enough and are not worthy of love. For this reason, I believe we as a society need to change our view of rejection. Although you may not be for everybody that is ok because not everybody will be for you either.
Rejection is Redirection
Instead of seeing rejection as a loss, what you need to do instead is see it as redirection. Unfortunately, sometimes some things happen for a reason. A reason we might not come to terms with for quite some time. We must be open to the idea that this did not work because there is something better for you ahead.
The end of something is the start of a brand-new beginning
A lot of us think of rejection as being the end of in this case, a relationship. However, we don’t really think about the brand new beginning we get as a result. With this new beginning comes the start of a new potential love story. The path in love is really a journey, not a race. Meaning there is a process you will go through. You will meet people and learn things about yourself along the way. Some people you will come across are meant to teach you things about yourself. Things that ultimately might prepare you for the person who is meant for you. Remember it’s not meant to work out with everyone unless you are polyamorous or remarrying. In reality, we all have many soulmates however that is another story.
Remember you deserve to be with someone who chooses you
I always like to say you deserve not just any love but real love. With that comes the feeling of being chosen. Nobody can love you as much as the person who chose you. For this reason, you should never feel like you a loss anything. Don’t close your heart to love because someone out there is wanting the same love you are wanting. Sometimes you don’t get what you want because you deserve better.
