Life comes with a lot of curveballs. For example, how about finding out that your ex-boyfriend who said they did not want to get married is now engaged? Or being dumped because you’re just too different from one another. Regardless of the reason as to why the relationship ended, it can be tough seeing our previous partner with someone else. However, it’s important to understand that if a relationship doesn’t work out, there is usually a good reason for it not working out, whether it is said or not.
Different expectations in love
When someone decides to end a relationship with someone and eventually ends up starting to date someone else. Unfortunately, the first thing people tend to do when they feel that they weren’t chosen is start comparing themselves to the other person. They think, “What did he see in them that they didn’t see in me?”. It can be very easy to start comparing ourselves to the person we are now with. It doesn’t mean you are not enough. We all have something different to offer in love. This might just mean that that person might offer something different. Not necessarily better, but different. For example, let’s say you love to be affectionate, and your ex-boyfriend didn’t need to be as affectionate. A breakup takes place, and you see him with someone else months later.
“Ok so how do you move on ?
A failed relationship does not define you as a person
It can be hard to bounce back to yourself after a relationship. You feel as if you gave a big part of who you are to a person and they did not see the value in you. It’s not your job to show people your worth. It is your job to know your value and not forget it. The right person will see your value and will treat you as such. For that reason, if someone wants to walk away let them in fact open the door. They are doing you a favor. You deserve not just any love but a real love.
Remember, you deserve to feel Chosen
The best and most satisfying relationships are the ones where you are chosen. I laugh when people say, “You shouldn’t want to be chosen; you should choose yourself”. We hold the power to choose something women in our past generations were not able to do. This choice holds such an important weight in our lives since it is the person who we chose to spend our daily life with. This is why it is so crucial that we find someone who loves us and respects us. I believe that no man will love you and cherish you as much as the one who chooses to have you in their life. So why not choose someone who chooses you but respects you?
Regardless of what happened in your relationship, remember that you deserve better. It can be hard to accept that not all relationships are a good fit, no matter how much we try to make it work. In reality, we should not focus on the other person but instead focus on the relationship itself. Couples must have the same mutual effort to want to continue a relationship. The mutual effort is what makes the relationship strong.
